I Am Who You Say I Am

Growing up comes with a lot of confusion. Teenagers are bombarded with questions from society, asking them who they are and what their true identity is. It can be easy for a person to respond to such questions by finding their identity in the place they are from–their culture, their skills, or their political opinions. But are those ideas really at the core of the person?

For those who grew up as third culture kids, identity can be a greater struggle since, oftentimes, they can barely answer the question, “Where are you from?” There is a constant battle within TCKs of finding where to belong and who they are within that place. Living in this in-between stage of never fully fitting in anywhere can lead to questioning one’s identity. Why do I not fit in? Where do I belong? Who am I really? 

However, becoming a follower of Christ automatically answers those questions. Our identity is found in Christ. TCK or not, when one walks the path of being a Christian, their identity at its very foundation must be found in Christ. 

Finding our identity in Christ requires total commitment. Either we commit ourselves to being slaves of Christ or else we stay being slaves to sin. Amongst humanity’s pride, people often find themselves more willing to commit to serving sin than serving God, but Jesus has called us to a life of humility and servanthood. During a recent teaching on identity in Christ, one of my youth leaders, Alexandros Demetriou, eloquently stated, “Until you realize you are nothing without Christ and set out to make your life convey that through every action, word, and thought, you’ll forever be held back by the ultimate lie of pride: that you belong to yourself.” We belong completely to Christ; every single part of who we are is his and realizing this humbles us to the point of wholeheartedly surrendering ourselves to Christ. 

In all the things we do, we should ultimately be reflecting Christ because identity in Christ is the basis and foundation of everything in our life. As Paul relays in Colossians 3:17, “And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him” (“Colossians 3 ESV”). Christ should be at the heart of everything we do, say, and think.

Below is an encouraging prayer by Saint Patrick to serve as a reminder that as followers of Christ, our identity and strength comes from him and not from ourselves:

Having Christ at the center of all that we do does not happen overnight. It is a choice we must make daily by denying ourselves, acknowledging God’s goodness, and walking in accordance with his will. Surrendering ourselves in exchange for finding our identity in Christ holds such a significance for the Christian walk because it is the foundation of everything. The Christian journey is a long one that requires trust in God’s will. Oh, what a good and gracious God we serve! 



“Colossians 3 ESV – Put On the New Self – If then you have.” Bible Gateway, 2021,

Brumfield, Matt. “Identity Sermon Series Artwork.” Behance, 29 January 2019,


  1. Alayna this is soo good!!! By far one of my favorite articles from this year 🙂

  2. Very important message—well done!!

  3. Great message and beautifully written. Thanks Alayna!